Going through a separation can be one of the most challenging times in life. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed, tired, or uncertain. Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean doing everything perfectly — it means doing what you can, when you can, to look after your well-being.

Rest

Separation can take a lot out of you, both emotionally and physically. Try to get as much rest as you can. Sleep helps you think more clearly and cope better with stress. If you can, give yourself permission to stop working or preparing when you’re tired — showing up rested can sometimes do more for you than another hour of late-night preparation.

Eat When You Can

It’s easy to forget to eat or to reach for quick comfort foods when you’re stressed. If possible, try to give your body some nourishment, even small, simple meals can help your energy and focus. Don’t worry about being perfect with your diet, just try to eat regularly and drink enough water.

Move a Little

Exercise doesn’t have to mean going to the gym or running miles. Gentle movement, like a short walk, some stretching, or even dancing in your kitchen, can help release tension and lift your mood. Do what feels manageable for you.

Take Small Breaks

You don’t need to be thinking about your separation all the time. It’s okay (and healthy) to take breaks. Watch a show, listen to music, do something creative, or spend time on an activity that helps you step away for a moment. Small moments of calm can make a big difference.

Connect with Others

Separation can feel isolating, but you don’t have to go through it alone. Reach out to people you trust like friends, family, or others who’ve been through something similar. Even short conversations can help you feel more supported and less alone.

Build a Support Network

If you can, lean on people who are kind, understanding, and patient. It’s okay to ask for help or to let others know you’re struggling. You don’t have to face every challenge on your own.

Seek Professional Support

If things start to feel too heavy, talking with a counsellor or mental health professional can help. They can provide tools and a safe space to sort through what you’re feeling. You don’t have to wait until things feel unmanageable — support is there whenever you need it.